I never cease to be awed by what we can absorb from almost any circumstance. I’ve been reading about the 7-year cycles of life. Last month I turned 42 and it occurred to me that I have come to the last year of a 7-year cycle. The sixth 7-year cycle of my life.
The 7-year cycle is a philosophical map of the life process based in astrology. The cycles are believed to be controlled by the planets. While very spiritual, this is not a religious view. Quite the contrary, religious views are integrated without regard to what, specifically, they are. They are a part of the life experiences that shape the individual in any particular cycle. Alas, I digress…
Living with a dying person is probably high on the list of most people’s worst fears. It certainly was high on mine; still is! As hard as you can possibly imagine it to be, you wind up wishing it was that easy. If you do not grow from the experience, if you let it take you down rather than lift you up, you are missing one of the most amazing miracles of life.
I can only surmise that determination makes the difference. Whatever you, yourself, determine that you will be, you will become exactly that. Be determined to grow, and learn, and change. If you do that, you can live with dying and create something of real-life, lasting value.
If you or someone you love is living with a dying person, “Gone From My Sight” by Barbara Karnes is HIGHLY recommended reading. A very easy read, and extremely enlightening. Any hospital or hospice should have them and give them to you at no charge. Step outside of the multitude of practical difficulies in this leg of your journey and open yourself to the fact that dying truly is a part of living. It WILL help you struggle less through yet another day, a scary day, an insane day.
Tying it all together. By understanding the 7-year cycles and how we evolve throughout LIFE based upon what takes place during these crucial 7-year blocks of time, we better understand the process of life that leads to DEATH. We can better relate to the life experiences of our dying loved one–of all our loved ones. We gain perspective, and therefore strength, to come out the other side BETTER, not worse, for having lived it.
The most beautiful and most profound experience is the sensation of the mystical. It is the power of all true science. He to whom this emotion is a stranger, who can no longer wonder and stand rapt in awe, is as good as dead. To know that what is impenetrable to us really exists, manifesting itself as the highest wisdom and the most radiant beauty which our dull faculties can comprehend only in their primitive forms – this knowledge, this feeling is at the center of true religiousness. (Albert Einstein – The Merging of Spirit and Science)